A few days ago on 'Parenting Conversations with Jay', we talked about a stage of parenting most parents do not prepare for called THE FLIGHT STAGE.
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This is when the child begins to crave independence, space, etc. They begin to dream and make choices on their own. Mind you, every proper child gets to this stage, though the timing differs from one child to be another.
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At this stage, most parents begin to feel 'betrayed' since they've put in so much at the Foundation stage. But that shouldn't be the case if you've prepared both your mind and your child adequately.
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Here are a few things you might need to do as your child is growing into an adult 👇👇
* Constantly remind yourself that this child is:
• not my property, but rather, I'll give an account to the owner.
• growing into an adult, that would be on his/her own someday.
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* Model and teach the place of prayer before taking a decision. Teach them to take God-decisions, not just good decisions.
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*. As they grow, get them involved in making simple decisions and choices. These are baby steps to bigger ones.
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* Teach them the consequence/cost of decisions. As soon as they can understand, let them know that every decision they take has either a positive or negative impact on their lives and those around them.
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* Don't always be embarrassed to let your children know when you make mistakes. Sometimes, they also need to know that adults make mistakes too as they're growing into adulthood.
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* Gradually reduce asking questions like "Who hurt you?" This will gradually nurture a desire to blame others when things happen.
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* If they perform poorly, instead of immediately sympathizing with them, interact with them to know why they think it happened and what they think they can do. This would help know the quality of values that have been instilled over time.
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* Ensure they are growing in the right environment, both in terms of relationships with the right friends and caregivers. Also that they are being exposed to the right information, like who/what they hear, books, tv programs, etc. All these will surely minimize the fears in your heart when it's time for the flight.
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* The place of constant intercession over the destiny of your child cannot be overemphasized. A child whose destiny you've seen and secured in the place of prayer, cannot take you unawares.
If this was helpful, feel free to let me know which of the points stood out to you 😊
Meanwhile,🥂 to responsible children 😊
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